You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”. —
Erin, “A Dress a Day” (via lollaloves)
THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS
This is one of the most accurate quotes I’ve ever fucking seen.
I think it’s doable.
Must reblog Xena
(Source: xoxopossumgirl, via lipstick-feminists)
Submitted by Lilia
That was an awesome read.
Oppression of men of color needs patriarchal oppression of white women, and the fear of male violence that comes with it. This fear is manipulated and racialized, creating the “justification” for the prison industrial complex, segregation, and police violence. Likewise, the oppression of white women relies on the racist conception of dangerous men of color, whose enforced “otherness” serves the purpose of obscuring white patriarchal violence and protecting perpetrators. Oppression of those in colonized communities needs class and race-based oppression in America, to force poor people into the military. Likewise, oppression of American people of color and poor people needs imperialism, to prevent transnational solidarity among people of color and among workers. Oppression of gay men needs patriarchy: without it, straight men’s fear of being “feminized” would not exist. Patriarchy needs white supremacist oppression: without it, racially coded white fear of “welfare mothers” wouldn’t stall efforts to provide affordable, state-sponsored childcare and other benefits for women. White supremacist oppression needs imperialism: without it, the white minority would not have the money or power to build tremendous global networks of prisons and sweatshops. Imperialism needs Americans to be divided over gay marriage, so war hawks can continue to control our foreign policy. Round and round it goes. If you don’t have an analysis of the oppression of others, you don’t have much of an analysis of your own oppression… If we imagine kyriarchy as a complex of structural and psychological supports that depend on each other, we can point to the cards at the base of this structure that rely on each other for support–the points of greatest weakness. Then, we can ask what type of activism would be most effective in addressing those weak points. Those are the right questions. —
Asking The Right Questions (via thetart)
Seriously. Although in here I would add class, class, class. Because the cards at the base of the structure include capitalism.
And transphobia, fatphobia, culturocentrism, etc etc. This stuff just all interlocks like a 3D fractal puzzle of fuckery.
One thing that I don’t understand about gender stereotypes and issues is how a man is looked down upon if he is not scruffy, full of muscles, and has the attitude of a bad boy. People don’t view a man, as a man if he is not dirty, doesn’t like to work out, and has compassion. For some reason men are not allowed to be seen crying, and they can not listen to any music that has a woman singer. If men are seen doing these things, people automatically assume he’s gay.
It is very frustrating. At my children’s school there is a Flamenco program. I’d say close to 95% female. Where are the boys? Worried about being called a pansy.
I hate how people complain when they see an older girl with a younger guy and an older guy with a younger girl. i think you should just leave poeple alone and not judge them.
For a women to be over weight is just sad! It’s unhealthy and unatractive. Everyone can be at a healthy weight, because everyone started at a healthy weight. It’s stupid how you can be so lazy and not care about your health, weight and apperance. As for the people (models) that are underweight. “Thinner is better” that’s what people are saying. It is not better! It’a discusting.. I hate how the models now are tall and SKINNY you can actually see there bones. Being skinny is so unhealthy. You need body weight for your body to function normally. I think we all need to just go with what is healthist for our own bodies!!!
Kayla (1 of many)
I have some thing to say to the companies that want people to be thin and look like all the models in there advertisement. All of us from senior‘s to kids watch and see what those companies show and say. What I’m talking about, is company with any products that advertised it, are giving the bad idea. For a few examples: there showing little girls all dress like adults, older women dress as kids, females in bathing suits all muscle, and thin, males in boxers, all muscle also thin. There pretty much saying that you need to look like this to be consider like them or us. No one is allowed to have a little fat or be big boned. All there doing is causing the rapes and perverts, pretty much everything out there. Just look open your eyes can you see that a children what to look like a star or a lot of people are on diets. Come on, you can be that stupid to see what your doing and see that’s wrong and it just keep getting worst. Look at what you are doing to all the children and adults.
The one thing I think is a bunch of bullshit is how men in this world are still stuck on the idea that it is the woman’s job to clean house, take care of the kids, cook dinner, wash clothes, and try to do homework too. Me and my husband always get into fights over this because he thinks just because he works a full-time job that he does his part and isn’t supposed to help. He thinks that his only job around the house is to cut weeds and throw out the trash. Which half the time I still end up doing. What men (my husband) don’t understand is now a days it is supposed to be equal. My husband told me to go back to school and he would help me with our son so I can do my homework. Well do you think that has happened HELL NO. I have to try to do my homework when my son is taking his naps or late at night when he is asleep. That totally sucks to because I am already so tired from playing with my son all day that I’m lucky if I get any homework done at night. I can say that my in-laws have helped me more than my husband. When he does help me with our son all I hear is my son screaming because my husband won’t let him play with certain things or I hear my son at the office door knocking and calling for me. So then I tell my husband can you please play with him and then that starts such a big fight I just give up doing my homework and take care of my son. It just bugs me how my husband always complains about being tired, if he wants to experience tired he needs to step into my shoes for one day. Another thing is when I ask well can you at least cook dinner to help me out well guess what he does he orders pizza or gets something easy from Wal-Mart but yet when I cook it has to be a home cooked meal if I dare try to order pizza or get something easy he gives me that look like your seriously going to make that. Don’t even get me started about him doing laundry because when he does “try” to do laundry he just makes more work for me because he will only wash what he needs or try to wash everything together which is one of my biggest pet peeves. And then dishes never ever will my husband do dishes he will see them stacking up but all he does is pile them neatly and leave them there. Well that is all I can write because again my husband is being a lazy ass and sleeping and my son is waking up from his nap so of course I have to get him. So that is the biggest thing I am passionate about is men not helping their wives around the house.
Muslims and Non-Muslims have found a way to interrupt a read of Surah an-Nisa verse 34 to beat their woman.
QURAN 4:34 - “Men have authority over women because God has made the one superior to the other, and because they spend their wealth to maintain them. Good women are obedient. They guard their unseen parts because God has guarded them. As for those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and send them to beds apart and beat them. Then if they obey you, take no further action against them. Surely God is high, supreme.”
In the video I found this translation of the verse a man talks about the “rules” that they must follow when beating their wife. A few rules that I saw off the video were never beat your wife in front of the children, and must be done in the following conditions: No Bruise or bleeding, Avoid sensitive parts of her body. Also the limits of beat are: No bleeding or broken bones. And if the husband violates these rules, he violates the rule of Allah.
This passage puts down woman so bad and makes them seem like dogs. It is sad that these people of this religion can talk about how they treat their woman and get away with it without any criminal charges. It is also sad that they have “rules” about how to beat their wives. It is like they know what they are doing is wrong and keep it a secret so no one will do anything about it. Although it is unknown if the verse is correct because how confusing the words that are used in the QURAN are. But this is how most interrupt the verse in order to beat their wives.